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IN YOUR PRIME
Scene
You reach the locked ward for Alzheimer's sufferers by taking an elevator
down to the basement. The unmistakable, and foul, odor announces that you
have arrived. It is then you first hear the screams:
"Ray... Ray... Ray... Ray."
The grating, frightening sounds continue, over and over again. Their source
is an emaciated African-American woman, sitting in her soiled bed, wearing
only a diaper and a lightweight top. Her hair is unkempt. The smell is
pungent, sickening.
"What's your name?" begins psychologist P.K. Beville, Ph.D., who is
dressed this day as a mime.
"Evelyn," the resident answers. Dr. Beville, a counselor inside nursing
homes for some 18 years, explains to Evelyn that she has come in costume,
because today is Halloween. She puts one arm around this resident's
shoulders even as she invites her to touch, and to explore, her mime's garb.
From the outset, Beville had recognized that Evelyn is blind.
How did she know? "The stare, the vacant eyes, " she said, "but also because
of the obvious neglect, coupled with the fact she was left behind."
Now, the relevant facts about this dramatic scene are: in another part of this
sub-standard home in North Georgia, outside Atlanta, a traditional
Halloween party is in progress. Beville, at 49 an old pro as a professional
caregiver, knew those needing special care would be left in their rooms. No
good time for anyone who can't make her own way to the Recreation Room.
As the founder of, and prime mover behind, "Second Wind
Dreams", a non-
profit group that goes into nursing homes all across the south and makes
unspoken wishes, or dreams, come true, Dr. Paula Kaye Beville of Marietta,
GA is the best friend the nursing home industry has.
Consider, instead of leading a crusade against the institutions, publicly
detailing neglect, abuse and outright crimes, this five-foot, 92-pound tartar
quietly wages her own sotto voce reform, employing compassion,
knowledge, persistence and, unquestionably, love.
On this day, as on so many others, Beville and five volunteers arrive with
gifts of lap robes, fresh flowers, bananas, candy and stuffed animals for the
dementia victims. The psychologist heads for the elevator. She cautions the
one volunteer who trails her: "You don't have to do this. There's horror
down there."
Together, the two women enter Evelyn's room; they gain her confidence and
then the psychologist took command. "Why don't we sing?" she suggests
and is surprised, pleasantly, at Ms. Evelyn's clear, strong voice.
"Do you know 'Amazing Grace'?" Paula Kay next asks. Not only does she
remember the tune, the Alzheimer's patient sings every word. Beville has an
idea: "Why don't you sing for these people? You can help them all with
your singing."
"I can?" asks Evelyn. Beville assures her, "Yes you can."
As the Second Wing Dream volunteers, all in costume, take their leave the
sweet music of the handicapped resident named Evelyn is at work behind
locked doors in the nursing home basement. She will sing all day.
"Did anyone thank you?" I ask Beville. The social scientist smiles, as if to
say: "I don't do what I do to be thanked." The truth is Beville is an
innovator, a social crusader who possesses that rare, intuitive talent to see,
and then to feel, another's misery.
"If I were blind, and demented," she tells me, her jaw muscles tightening,
"and left alone, wearing a diaper because someone doesn't want me getting
up and going to the bathroom, I'd be screaming a lot more than Ray, Ray,
Ray."
As if to declare a New Year resolution, she adds, "I need to take Evelyn under my wing, make certain she's not forgotten, left alone like
that ... again."
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