Coping -- Build A Timetable

Learn to schedule your time. Begin by buying a new daily diary and making lots of notes. Write down your feelings, your desires. Give yourself some short-term goals (pay the taxes; clean out the spare room and use it as your new study) and some long-term goals (plan to visit some old haunt where you’ve always felt comfortable and at peace). What you’re seeking to do here is bring order to your chaos, and to conduct a self-examination. Many older women, finding themselves newly alone, discover that they’ve spent much of their adult life caring for others. You may go through a transition stage before you’re ready to adapt to the new you. In summary, you need to truly get to know the one person you can count on — YOURSELF —before you graduate to become a coping person.